On Marriage - draft
Philipose Vaidyar I Prologue What No One Tells You I have something to tell you. We spend so much time planning a wedding, but we spend almost zero time planning a marriage. We worry about the clothes, the food, and the photos. We plan for one single day. But we forget to plan for the 50 or 70 years that come after. In the past, our grandparents looked at marriage like a forever promise. It wasn't always easy. Sometimes it was very hard. But they stayed. They fixed what was broken. They didn't just throw things away. Today, everything has changed. We treat marriage like a phone app. If it has a bug, or if we get bored, we want to delete it and find a new one. We want everything to be easy and fast. But here is the truth: Having a smartphone doesn't mean we talk better. Having a degree doesn't mean we are "smart" at love. Having more freedom has actually made us more lonely. I am writing this because I see many people giving up too s...